I read an article today in Yahoo Finance "Getting Rich is Contagious--So Catch the Bug." How true it is. Why do all the important articles come out about 20 years after I need to read them?
Not that it is not common sense. But tell that to a 20 something.
For me, I never had money troubles growing up or in college, thanks to my parents who were good providers.
I have always thought, and this article confirms it for me, that I got into some bad habits with money when I was in my 20s. I had always thought that it seemed like an excuse though to blame it on that.
But the Yahoo article points out that the money contagion is like the fat contagion that has recently been discussed in the news. Hang around with fat friends and you may get fat. (This has been a problem for me in the past too--when I am with my overweight friends, I feel thin and am more likely to overeat).
Likewise, you pick up money habits from those you hang around with. If all you have is broke friends, being broke seems like the norm, and you are more likely to be broke too. If you are around thrifty or investment minded friends, then you are more likely to be that way.
When I was in my 20s, I ran around with a lot of people who had bad money habits. They used plastic all the time and didn't have a good source of income. I had a good source of income, but they wheedled me into doing things I couldn't afford. Of course I could have said no, but they were my friends. They were older than me and I looked up to them. I was a dummy!
Of course I have known better for a long time, and in recent years have actually done better. I still have too much debt, but I did cut up my credit cards a couple of years ago. And I am much better with watching my money and not spending friviously.
I think the main problem is that when you develop a habit in your 20s, you are still impressionable, and it is hard to shake. I know--it has been hard for me to shake it. But I am shaking it, and I am more careful to not get into lockstep with those around me, unless it is a good habit!
Wednesday, October 3, 2007
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
"The Secret" and Money
By now, all of you have probably heard of The Secret. The hoopla The Secret created a few months back has more or less settled down now, but its message remains with many people, including me.
Basically, The Secret is based on the Laws of Attraction. In other words, like attracts like and be careful of what you wish for, as you may get it.
I take this to mean that rather than wishing not to be sick, you should wish to be well. Even when you are wishing to not be sick, the universe focuses on the word "sick."
Many may think this is a bunch of hooey, but I think it has merit, and I am trying to incorporate it into my life as much as possible.
This is a partial list of what I am focusing on:
The universe is sending the right man to me, and he is on his way.
I am healthy and will remain that way.
I have many people in my life who cherish my friendship and love me, and I will never be lonely.
People appreciate me for my mind and spirit; they appreciate my input
I have abundance of wealth, more money than I need.
Well the last one is a little exaggeration, but part of The Secret is to think as if what you want is already happening, and then it will come true.
I was at a business meeting the other day, and the speaker was offering a variety of inspirational messages.
He did not say the words "The Secret" specifically, but it was what he was talking about, I am sure. He said to always keep a $100 bill in your pocket to make yourself feel prosperous and to keep $20 bills lying around the house for the same reason. He didn't explain, but I think it is part of that "acting as if."
Speaking of that, I know that tuition check will not clear my account until after tomorrow and I will not have any NSF due to debit card transactions before then!
Basically, The Secret is based on the Laws of Attraction. In other words, like attracts like and be careful of what you wish for, as you may get it.
I take this to mean that rather than wishing not to be sick, you should wish to be well. Even when you are wishing to not be sick, the universe focuses on the word "sick."
Many may think this is a bunch of hooey, but I think it has merit, and I am trying to incorporate it into my life as much as possible.
This is a partial list of what I am focusing on:
The universe is sending the right man to me, and he is on his way.
I am healthy and will remain that way.
I have many people in my life who cherish my friendship and love me, and I will never be lonely.
People appreciate me for my mind and spirit; they appreciate my input
I have abundance of wealth, more money than I need.
Well the last one is a little exaggeration, but part of The Secret is to think as if what you want is already happening, and then it will come true.
I was at a business meeting the other day, and the speaker was offering a variety of inspirational messages.
He did not say the words "The Secret" specifically, but it was what he was talking about, I am sure. He said to always keep a $100 bill in your pocket to make yourself feel prosperous and to keep $20 bills lying around the house for the same reason. He didn't explain, but I think it is part of that "acting as if."
Speaking of that, I know that tuition check will not clear my account until after tomorrow and I will not have any NSF due to debit card transactions before then!
Sunday, September 16, 2007
Due Dates are Important
I think a lot of my problem with debt (not all of course) is due to my inattention to small things (or big things, however you want to look at it) like due dates. I don't know how many times I have been tunnel-visioned at work and just let a due date go by. And by and by. I don't know why that has happened. But in my editor job, I would get so pressured at certain times,
I literally would not think about anything but work until I met the deadline. And due dates were sometimes the casualties.
It is like things just slip by me. I know I should do a calendar when things are due, but I just haven't done that.
Take today for instance. I almost forgot to call the electric company and make a payment arrangement. If I hadn't done that, my power might have been off in a couple of days. We have had a rough summer, and my bill is higher than normal because of the extra air conditioning needed. I needed to make an arrangement to pay at the end of the month, because it is more than I can pay right now.
I called today and arranged for that to happen. Had I forgotten to do that, and called tomorrow, it might have been too late. Then my power could have gone off, and then I would have had to pay the whole bill anyway, and I don't have the money in my account right now to do that.
Whew. Disaster averted. But it is things like that that get me in trouble. Inattention to details. I can't wait until I don't have to worry about this anymore.
I literally would not think about anything but work until I met the deadline. And due dates were sometimes the casualties.
It is like things just slip by me. I know I should do a calendar when things are due, but I just haven't done that.
Take today for instance. I almost forgot to call the electric company and make a payment arrangement. If I hadn't done that, my power might have been off in a couple of days. We have had a rough summer, and my bill is higher than normal because of the extra air conditioning needed. I needed to make an arrangement to pay at the end of the month, because it is more than I can pay right now.
I called today and arranged for that to happen. Had I forgotten to do that, and called tomorrow, it might have been too late. Then my power could have gone off, and then I would have had to pay the whole bill anyway, and I don't have the money in my account right now to do that.
Whew. Disaster averted. But it is things like that that get me in trouble. Inattention to details. I can't wait until I don't have to worry about this anymore.
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
The Devil is in the Debit Cards
I am really tired of holding my breath about my checking balance, and hoping that this check or that check doesn't clear for a couple of days.
I finally figured out that I should help manage my account by using my debit card less, particularly towards the end of my pay period. If you use your card a lot and then one stray check or another clears befroe you were expecting, you can get hit with some unwelcome NSF charges for those debit charges.
There has been a lot of news lately about how banks can stiff you by the order they choose to send your charges through. For example, on any given night, my bank will send through the largest charges first, whether checks or debit charges, followed by the other charges in descending order.
That has caused me great grief in the past. Say I have $100 in my checking account, and I have made debit purchases of $5, $10 and $15. Then I write a check for $89, and that check clears a day before I expect. That check at my bank would go through first, which would then bounce all three of those debit charges, assuming they go through my bank on the same night.
I have talked with my bank representatives before and asked why this happens. It seems like the debit charges should clear first, since they are smaller amounts, there are more of them, and I made those charges first. But no, say my representatives, they have polled their customers, and they said they would prefer the largest charges to go through first????? Well, they didn't poll me. By sending the larger charge through first, they will earn three NSF fees, as opposed to only one if they had done it the other way.
In recent weeks, I have held my breath many times, worried that a string of debit charges would go through at an inopportune time. Worse case scenario, it could wipe out a huge part of my balance. Luckily, that has not happened.
But what I have decided to do is that at the end of my pay period, when the dollars really count--is to try to pay cash for all the small things, like newspapers, coffee, gas even. It would be better for me to deduct some money from my checking account and pay for those things. That way if there is an overdraft charge, it would only be one from the withdrawal, rather than a bunch for small purchases.
I am really looking forward to the day, hopefully soon, when I don't have to hold my breath anymore.
I finally figured out that I should help manage my account by using my debit card less, particularly towards the end of my pay period. If you use your card a lot and then one stray check or another clears befroe you were expecting, you can get hit with some unwelcome NSF charges for those debit charges.
There has been a lot of news lately about how banks can stiff you by the order they choose to send your charges through. For example, on any given night, my bank will send through the largest charges first, whether checks or debit charges, followed by the other charges in descending order.
That has caused me great grief in the past. Say I have $100 in my checking account, and I have made debit purchases of $5, $10 and $15. Then I write a check for $89, and that check clears a day before I expect. That check at my bank would go through first, which would then bounce all three of those debit charges, assuming they go through my bank on the same night.
I have talked with my bank representatives before and asked why this happens. It seems like the debit charges should clear first, since they are smaller amounts, there are more of them, and I made those charges first. But no, say my representatives, they have polled their customers, and they said they would prefer the largest charges to go through first????? Well, they didn't poll me. By sending the larger charge through first, they will earn three NSF fees, as opposed to only one if they had done it the other way.
In recent weeks, I have held my breath many times, worried that a string of debit charges would go through at an inopportune time. Worse case scenario, it could wipe out a huge part of my balance. Luckily, that has not happened.
But what I have decided to do is that at the end of my pay period, when the dollars really count--is to try to pay cash for all the small things, like newspapers, coffee, gas even. It would be better for me to deduct some money from my checking account and pay for those things. That way if there is an overdraft charge, it would only be one from the withdrawal, rather than a bunch for small purchases.
I am really looking forward to the day, hopefully soon, when I don't have to hold my breath anymore.
Saturday, September 8, 2007
Warranties Can Be a Life-Saver
There are a lot of pros and cons out there about buying home warranties and extended warranties and such. I have become a big believer in them, and this year my home warranty saved my butt.
My air conditioning unit was on borrowed time--I can't believe how old it was, and my fear was it would go out on me and I would have to replace it. Some people who live in my building have had to pay as much as $3,000 when that happened to them, and generally I am not in a position to have that much money on hand to pay for a repair of that magnitude.
I know some people say, rather than paying the warranty premiums, just save the money and have it on hand--an emergency fund if you will--in case of needed repairs. That is all fine and well, and the best situation if you can do it, but it is hard to have that much in an emergency fund all the time. There have been times when I have had that much money in the bank, but when I have had to use it, it has been hard to replenish it.
All I know is that when in April my air conditioning broke, if I had not had the home warranty, I would literally be toast. My building is a hot building, and I think it would be impossible to be here when the temperatures start soaring. In April when this happened, it was only around 80-85 outside, and it was already sweltering inside. I was having trouble sleeping, and my pets were panting.
Imagine how it would have been this summer when temperatures outside reached 100 degrees F, and stayed that way for about a month! There would have been no way.
Apparently my bill in April would have been about $1,000 without the warranty, a bargain compared to the money others in my building have had to put out when theirs were on the fritz. But it would have been $1,000 more than I had, and I definitely would have been in a pickle.
With the warranty, all I had to pay was $55. I will bet my money on the warranty.
My air conditioning unit was on borrowed time--I can't believe how old it was, and my fear was it would go out on me and I would have to replace it. Some people who live in my building have had to pay as much as $3,000 when that happened to them, and generally I am not in a position to have that much money on hand to pay for a repair of that magnitude.
I know some people say, rather than paying the warranty premiums, just save the money and have it on hand--an emergency fund if you will--in case of needed repairs. That is all fine and well, and the best situation if you can do it, but it is hard to have that much in an emergency fund all the time. There have been times when I have had that much money in the bank, but when I have had to use it, it has been hard to replenish it.
All I know is that when in April my air conditioning broke, if I had not had the home warranty, I would literally be toast. My building is a hot building, and I think it would be impossible to be here when the temperatures start soaring. In April when this happened, it was only around 80-85 outside, and it was already sweltering inside. I was having trouble sleeping, and my pets were panting.
Imagine how it would have been this summer when temperatures outside reached 100 degrees F, and stayed that way for about a month! There would have been no way.
Apparently my bill in April would have been about $1,000 without the warranty, a bargain compared to the money others in my building have had to put out when theirs were on the fritz. But it would have been $1,000 more than I had, and I definitely would have been in a pickle.
With the warranty, all I had to pay was $55. I will bet my money on the warranty.
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
I did a bad, bad thing
I did a bad, bad thing, but for a good reason. I submitted a letter today, saying I needed to make a hardship withdrawal from my 401K for tuition and tuition-related expenses. Yes, I know it is stupid, because I have to pay a 20 percent penalty and 10 percent tax on it.
But there is really no other way for me to pay the expenses. If there were, I wouldn't touch it. I took this out of my small 401K at my new company. I would never touch my big 401K at my old company, the fund that is doing so well. So I feel better about that. My big retirement fund is actually doing well.
My justification is that I really, really need the money and I have no other way to pay the expenses. Also, I don't have to worry about the money every single day. Worrying like I have been doing can't be good for me.
So now I can rest easy. I can pay for my education.
And when I graduate, I can start putting a whole lot of money into my new 401K.
And I can feel good that I still have a really good 401K balance in my other fund.
So, maybe it is not so bad??
But there is really no other way for me to pay the expenses. If there were, I wouldn't touch it. I took this out of my small 401K at my new company. I would never touch my big 401K at my old company, the fund that is doing so well. So I feel better about that. My big retirement fund is actually doing well.
My justification is that I really, really need the money and I have no other way to pay the expenses. Also, I don't have to worry about the money every single day. Worrying like I have been doing can't be good for me.
So now I can rest easy. I can pay for my education.
And when I graduate, I can start putting a whole lot of money into my new 401K.
And I can feel good that I still have a really good 401K balance in my other fund.
So, maybe it is not so bad??
Sunday, September 2, 2007
Help for Those Facing Foreclosure
There has been a lot in the news in the last couple of days about what Bush wants to do for those facing foreclosure. He is getting a lot of flack about this from some quarters. I am no Bush fan (that is an understatement) but I do think that what he wants to do has some merit.
Yes, many of the sub prime borrowers probably shouldn't have had mortgages to begin with. But they were trying to own their own homes. And the lenders didn't have to approve them, but they did. Yes, maybe some of these people were in the subprime category because they are bad with money and can't manage it well. But it still seems like some forces beyond their control were at work here too.
Anyway, Bush is wanting to put in place some measure that will help some, but not all of those in trouble. I am not an expert at this, and don't know all the details, but from what I do know, I think it is a good idea. After all, if a bunch of people are suddenly in trouble like this, it can't be good for the economy, right?
There is also a group of people out there (as evidenced from some money message boards) who seem to think that these people should not be helped at all. After all, they say, we paid our mortgages, and we do things the right way--why should we help them out?
I understand what they are saying, but I always marvel at people who think they are ever above making a mistake or doing something wrong. Just because they haven't gotten into a mess yet, does that mean they never will? Bad things happen to good people.
Yes, many of the sub prime borrowers probably shouldn't have had mortgages to begin with. But they were trying to own their own homes. And the lenders didn't have to approve them, but they did. Yes, maybe some of these people were in the subprime category because they are bad with money and can't manage it well. But it still seems like some forces beyond their control were at work here too.
Anyway, Bush is wanting to put in place some measure that will help some, but not all of those in trouble. I am not an expert at this, and don't know all the details, but from what I do know, I think it is a good idea. After all, if a bunch of people are suddenly in trouble like this, it can't be good for the economy, right?
There is also a group of people out there (as evidenced from some money message boards) who seem to think that these people should not be helped at all. After all, they say, we paid our mortgages, and we do things the right way--why should we help them out?
I understand what they are saying, but I always marvel at people who think they are ever above making a mistake or doing something wrong. Just because they haven't gotten into a mess yet, does that mean they never will? Bad things happen to good people.
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